How to properly approach Me.

Initial contact is by Email or a very brief phone conversation, then followed up with a confirmation phone call.  In a clear voice or properly typed email offer your play name, your experience level, why you wish to session with this person, your play style and why type of BDSM connection you wish to engage in.

Also, offer a BDSM Professional referral.  Don't immediately start asking me tons of questions or rush to make an appointment without stating who you are.  Ask me how I wish to be addressed.  Every professional Dominant has their own procedures around conducting an initial phone interview, so if you email first ask for the second step.

My "Don't" list:

• Don't call or email without knowing about My interests, areas of experience and expertise - Do your homework
• Don't grovel.
• Don't be rude.
• Don't mistake the conversation for phone sex or a free phone session.
• Don't be pushy, I will hang up on you.
• Don't say "I'll do anything" - have an idea of your play desires.
• Don't waste my time a make an appointment you can't or won't keep.
• Don't assume that I will do anything directly sexual, illegal, non-consensual, or unsafe. All play is SSC.
• Don't haggle over My requested tribute and don't ask that question first thing.
• Don't show up late or more than 15 minutes early -- this is rude and inconsiderate.

"Do" list:

• Do your homework on their web site, check My "BDSM related" references and see My requirements for making an appointment. Follow them exactly has I have requested.
• Do trust your instincts about your compatibility with Me.
• Do - Be professional and Respectful.
• Do be honest about your level of experience and how many hours of real time play or service you have.
• Do clearly state your interests and limits.
• Do politely ask about tributes and donations, do not argue about the amount.
• Do call back at your assigned confirmation time(s).
• Do listen attentively.
• Do follow their instructions.

Some of the above suggestions can also be applied to other types of BDSM (and vanilla) interactions. If you follow these "Do" and "Don't" suggestions and My guidance, you should have a smoother initial conversation, which is likely to lead to Me granting you a play encounter appointment.